Important Life Lessons:

25 Things I Know Now
That I Wish I Knew Then

There's a lot to be said for the important life lessons you gain in midlife. Sometimes it's hard to remember this since much of the world seems obsessed with youth and beauty.

I’ve seen some women over 40 treated as if they were invisible, BUT it is impossible to be invisible when you have a positive self-confident attitude that says “yes, I have lived and I have knowledge and pearls of wisdom to share.

While there is a lot to be said for youth, I wouldn’t trade it for all the gifts I’ve received at midlife.

  • Wisdom
  • Knowledge
  • Love
  • Spiritual growth

midlife wisdom

One day in my late forties, I woke up with a midlife wisdom I didn’t have the day before. At least that’s how it felt. It seemed it happened overnight – I was older and wiser. I wouldn’t trade these important life lessons to be 20 years old again.

Would you?

I’ve gained so much insight during this time of my life. I only wish I had this wisdom and awareness when I was younger.

What do you know now that you wish you knew when you were younger?

Here’s my list of important life lessons:

  1. M.O.J.I.TO Be Happy (My Only Job Is TO Be Happy)

  2. Worrying is useless – when I look back on the things I’ve worried about I wonder “what was I thinking”?

  3. Let whatever happens be okay.

  4. Disappointments are very often blessings in disguise.

  5. Aging is not something to be afraid of and does not equal declining.

  6. My 20 year old size 10 body was beautiful – I wish I appreciated that back then.

  7. Beautiful bad men are not nearly as sexy as kind, generous and compassionate men.

  8. My parents were doing the very best that they could.

  9. If I started saving just $1.00 a day when I was 20, I would be a gazillionaire now.

  10. Smoking is definitely not cool.

  11. Successful, happy people don’t sit around and watch TV.

  12. Things ALWAYS get better.

  13. It’s all about the journey so make it a great trip.

  14. Smart people know when to ask for help.

  15. Happiness is a choice; not just a genetic or environmental influence.

  16. Don’t believe everything you hear; believe the things that make you feel good.

  17. No one can make me happy, that’s my job.

  18. I definitely would have re-thought that perm in the 70’s.

  19. You can’t choose your family, but you can choose your friends. So, pick friends that are positive and bring out the best in you.

  20. Embracing change doesn’t mean changing the people around me.

  21. The only dirty word is “should”.

  22. Not everything is my mother’s fault :)

  23. It’s important to take control of my life WITHOUT being a control freak.

  24. Good things happen when I focus on the solution instead of the problem.

  25. Learn to appreciate the contrast in life. If every day was Saturday and I could eat chocolate cake and pizza for every meal, wouldn’t that lose its appeal after awhile?

Are you wiser now than you were when you were younger?

What do you know now that you wish you knew when you were in your 20s? Share your wisdom!

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It's so simple to be wise. Just think of something stupid to say and say the opposite. ~Sam Levenson