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Learning how to manage the biggest causes of stress in midlife is easier than you think - if you know how.
Let’s face it, there's no shortage of challenges facing women over 40 or 50 and by the time you reach midlife there’s a whole host of issues you will likely have to face.
What are your biggest stress-evoking issues? The biggest causes of stress are the ones you focus on the most and that will be different for every one.
The key is to focus on the results you want instead of focusing on what’s not working or what you want to change. Seek knowledge and inspiration from other women who have overcome these challenges and have successfully turned the page to the second chapter in their life.
Midlife is typically a time of great transition. Whether you’re facing a challenging situation like job loss, being a caregiver to aging parents, empty nest issues, deciding whether you want a midlife career change, having relationship issues or are just facing the loss of your youth.
No matter what your challenges are, you deserve to be happy. The key is to learn how to be happy despite your challenges.
Our midlife experiences are as varied and diverse as the unique women we are. Some women are:
We are all so wonderfully unique and what makes one person happy won’t work for someone else. We have to be true to who we are as individuals and find out what our own needs are – not our friends or our family’s needs.
What comes to mind when you hear the word midlife or middle aged? Does it bring to mind midlife crisis, menopause, creaking bones, saggy bodies, mortality?
Or does it elicit thoughts of wisdom, freedom, abundance, inner peace, and happiness?
You get what you focus on, so doesn’t it make sense to focus on the latter? Take your mind off your biggest causes of stress.
So what are your midlife stress issues and how well do you handle them? Do you know how to
Empty Nest Syndrome:
You’ve spent 18 or more years devoted to your children and now that
they’re gone you don’t know what to do with yourself. You’re still a
Mom of course; just not full time. What do you do with your time now?
What happens to your marriage when the kids aren’t there? How do you
start over at midlife?
Caring for Aging Parents: If you’re a caregiver it’s very important that you take care of your needs as well as those you’re caring for. Caregiving can be emotionally and physically exhausting if you are not taking care of yourself first.
Job Loss: When you or your spouse lose a job it can be another one of the biggest causes of stress. It’s hard to turn off all the “what-ifs”. What if we can’t pay the bills? What if I can’t find another job? What if we lose our savings? What if we lose our home?
Many of us wake up in midlife and realize we’re not living the dream and
time is running out. It can be a little scary to start over,
especially in tough economic times, but it’s possible to make a midlife
career change without throwing your life into utter chaos.
Midlife Parents: Parental roles and responsibilities were much more clearly defined in past decades. Today there is no one-size-fits-all model of parenting. Women over 40 are such a diverse group and that’s true when it comes to being a parent as well. Are you a single mother, divorced mother, an older mom, an adoptive mom, or are you dealing with adult children living at home?
Hot flashes and mood swings are the stereotypical symptoms of menopause
and are often the biggest causes of stress for women starting in their
late 40's or early 50's. Is this the beginning of the end or the
beginning of a new chapter in your life? Your response will impact how
you transition through the menopause cycle.
Midlife Divorce: The reasons for divorce in midlife are generally the same as they are in other periods of life. It can seem more devastating when you’re over 40 or 50 because the perception is that it’s harder to start over when you’re older. There are so many fears and worries such as: How will you get by financially? Will I find another partner at this age? What will this do to the kids? The good news is that almost everyone who divorces in midlife ends up feeling that they’ve made the right decision.