Are there advantages of being single over 40?

Discover why women stay single and happy

Women in their 40s and 50s are discovering that there are in fact advantages of being single and it IS possible to be single and happy. What separates women who are single and happy from those who are single and miserable? As with everything else in life, it all comes down to attitude. Women who can look at their current status and find hope and gratitude will ultimately be the women who find their relationship goals materialize.

Where do you fit in? Can you see the benefits of being single, even if you don’t want to be single?



Women who are happy and successful in midlife have learned that the secret to happiness is to accept and appreciate where you are right now. If you’re single and want to be in a relationship, the fastest way to achieve that is to embrace your current single status and stop struggling and complaining about it. The best way to handle your single life is to embrace the positive elements, and staying open to new adventures.

So, how do you focus on the positive if you don’t want to be single? You focus on the benefits of being single instead of the negatives. Appreciation for your current single status does NOT mean that you are telling the Universe that this is where you want to stay.

The reasons why women stay single will be different for every woman – some women will be single by choice and others won’t, but it’s always important to keep positive. What advantages of being single could you appreciate in your life? Here are a few suggestions to get you started.

5 Advantages of being single in midlife:

1. FREEDOM: Being single means that you are free to live life your way. You don’t have to consider how another person feels about where to go on vacation, what color to paint the house, or how to spend free time. You are free to work as many hours as you like and see friends whenever you want. Single women are more likely to get out in the world and experience new people and situations.

2. NO DRAMA: Along with relationships comes drama. One of the advantages of being single is that you don’t have the ups and downs often associated with long term relationships, and you don’t have the stress of someone else’s baggage. When starting a new relationship in midlife there are often hurdles to navigate. There may be children, previous spouses, or even recovery from a deceased spouse. While it is entirely possible to overcome these obstacles, staying single and finding your own happiness avoids them.

3. NO IN-LAWS: This one will of course depend on the in-laws, but we have all heard the horror stories that come with some families. Staying single means you only have to deal with your own crazy relatives.

4. MONEY: One of the reasons why women stay single longer today may be for financial reasons. Money is often listed as one of the top relationship complaints, so with no one to control your spending (or someone who dictates yours), many women discover that they are single and happy AND financially independent. There’s no one to veto your spending decisions (hmm, that could be a plus or minus. Women in the past relied on men for financial support. Since this is usually no longer the case, women don’t feel the same pull to be tied down as our mothers did because we don’t need men to provide security and financial support.

5. SENSE OF SELF: Many women find themselves consumed with their partners, their children, or aging parents. They often get lost in the process of caring for others and don’t make the time to know who they really are. When you become part of a couple, you may stop participating in activities that your partner is not enthusiastic about. Singles over 40 have the luxury of focusing on their inner growth and personal development. One of the great advantages of being single over 40 is having the opportunity to know what you really want out of life and what your purpose is.

Adopting the mindset that being single is not a negative state is key to your happiness and well being. Become happy with being you!

There are many advantages of being single just as there are advantages in being in a committed relationship. The secret to figuring out how to be happy and single or happy and married is to accept and appreciate where you are first.

If you are single and are looking to find a happy lasting relationship, the first thing you have to do is accept your current state. Being happy where you are is a prerequisite for being happy where you want to go. So, if you want a relationship, embrace being single first.

Learn more about being Over 40 and Single.

So, now that you’re happy and single, are you ready for your soulmate? Arielle Ford has developed the Soulmate Kit, a step-by-step process that anyone can use to prepare yourself, your home, your body, mind and spirit for the lover your heart truly desires. Are you ready?